Sex and dating with herpes in London

Welcome to my blog about herpes and dating in London

So what's this all about?

I am looking for a woman who has herpes for a sexual relationship in London, UK.

Herpes is often spread by sexual contact. Dating or having sex with someone who has herpes should, in my opinion, be done with the full knowledge of both parties. It is a difficult decision for someone who doesn't have herpes to sleep with someone who does. Equally, a person with herpes (whether it's HSV1 or HSV2, and whether it's oral or genital) may find it difficult to find a sexual partner. Conversations explaining the situation can meet with unpredictable reactions. There is, unfortunately, a social stigma associated with having a sexually transmitted infection. Herpes is more embarassing and annoying than harmful, and can be controlled to minimise the risk of infection by the use of anti-viral medication, and condoms or other physical barrier methods.

However, it should be noted that no method guarantees 100% protection from transmission or infection. Just as condoms don't guarantee 100% prevention of pregnancy, they cannot protect against transmission of herpes. Condoms and anti-viral drugs used together will drastically reduce the likelihood of the virus being present, and being transmitted. It is entirely possible to have a "normal" sexual relationship with someone while taking these precautions, and for the virus to never be spread.

When I was diagnosed as having genital herpes type 2 (HSV2), I thought I would never be able to have sex again. Fortunately, this is not the case, and I have enjoyed healthy and sexual relationships since diagnosis.

I am looking for a sexual relationship with a woman in London, who understands everything that I have written here. She may have herpes herself, or may not. If this is you, then please get in touch. You can see other posts here with more detail about me, and what I'm looking for.

This blog was created because I found it very difficult to find herpes dating information that was relevant to my needs. Finding explicitly sex-related herpes sites was nearly impossible, especially sites specific to London. After getting unsatisfactory results from the dating sites I found, I decided to create something for anyone with herpes wanting to discuss sex and dating, in London. Of course, I'm happy to contact people who live outside London too; transport isn't a problem.

A word to everyone out there who has recently been diagnosed with herpes. Don't let it get you down! There is no reason to think that you can't and won't be able to date again. You can and will.

Finally, a note about the ads on this page. Google runs an advertising programme called AdSense. I've placed the ads on this page to see if they will provide visitors with useful herpes information. I have removed a few ads that offer "miracle cures", because I just don't believe them. If you want to see them, then just go to Google and search for "herpes". You'll find plenty. If you spot any ads on here that you think are offering a miracle herpes cure, or something equally unbelievable, then click the ad, copy the website URL, and email it to me. Then I can tell my Google AdSense account not to show ads from that site. My address is in my profile (link at the top on the right). Thanks.

Tuesday, January 02, 2007

Compeed cold-sore patches

After a long absence, I'm back and hopefully posting a lot more!

So, today on the telly, I spotted an advert for Compeed's new cold-sore patches. The TV ad shows a gorgeous lass with a tiny red spot on her lip, so she pops a patch on, dashes some lipstick over it, and snogs her bloke. According to their website, the patch reduces symptoms, but it doesn't say anything about reducing contagiousness. The site has a few comments saying it's a "miracle" and "hides the sore from the outside world". The medical information is inaccurate, saying that HSV1 affects the lips and HSV2 the genitals - that's usually the case, but either can affect other areas of the body too.

All in all: what a crock!

The implication in the TV ad is that popping on a patch means that you can kiss without worry of spreading the virus, something which the Compeed website is careful to avoid explicity stating - meaning that it's not the case. Most advertisers manipulate their audience into wanting something they haven't got. Compeed goes one step further!